Recently, a man asked me the following question:
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"Calle, can you tell me what's going on? My wife and I have been married for 15 years and after the first year, the sex started becoming less and less frequent. My wife simply wasn't in the mood for it...she didn't feel like having sex...she had a "headache"...she was "tired" or whatever.
Now, if we make love once a month it's a miracle and even then, she's clearly and obviously just "giving it" to me so I'll shut up and go away. It doesn't seem to matter what I say or do, my wife just doesn't seem to have any interest in sex. And, that's how it's been for years. That's not how it was before we married and weightlossviagraforum.com during the first year, but after that, it's like her desire for sex just completely disappeared.
And now...the latest thing I have discovered is that my wife seems to be having an affair. Of course, she is denying it but I'm seeing too many indications...too many red flags...and the last time we made love it was definitely like she had been in bed with another guy and since then, she has been even more distant and has shunned my approaches even more strongly than she has in the past.
So, my question is, how can a woman who has had no desire for sex all these years...who has avoided intimacy with me go have an affair with another man? That just doesn't make any sense to me...I don't get that!"
That's a good question don't you think? How can a woman who seemingly doesn't like or want sex go engage in sex with another man? Well, let's explore what's really going on by asking another question...
What kind of man does your wife want?
The answer to that question is my famous line, "A woman wants a man that she can have a positive and sexual reaction to." A woman wants a man who understands and meets her needs. And, she wants a man who thinks, behaves, and operates in a way that is appealing, attractive, and sexy.
And, when the man who asked the question above didn't provide those things to his wife, she began to move away from him...she began to stop wanting sex with HIM.
BIG, BIG, distinction here...she didn't stop wanting sex...she stopped wanting sex with HIM. She stopped wanting sex with a man who wasn't turning her on sexually.
Now, the issue was not that this man was incapable of turning his wife on sexually. The issue was that he had not yet learned how to do that.
As a comparison, imagine that right after this man married his wife she started growing uglier and uglier until she eventually became this horribly grotesque woman. If this had happened, the man would have stopped wanting sex with his wife, right? Well, for a man, it primarily has to do with physical looks. For a wife, it primarily has to do with the feelings that the man she's with creates inside of her...and this man just needed to learn how to create the right feelings inside of her.
Your wife wanted sex in the past. She wants sex NOW. She wants sex in the future. So, if your wife doesn't want sex with you, then she wants it with someone else. If your wife does not want sex with you, I suggest you use that as motivation to become the kind of man that your wife wants before she goes and finds someone else.
Now, I want to raise a related point...
I was helping a different man recently who also found himself in an almost identical situation...he and his wife had been married for 18 years, wife had resisted and rejected sex for years...and then he discovered that his wife was having an affair, etc. Anyway, as I began talking with this man, one of the things he kept saying over and over was...
"Overall, I have been a very good husband and father!"
I'm sure you've heard other men say this about themselves, right? And in fact, you may have even said or thought this about yourself too.
But, let's ask ourselves, what does that really mean to say you are a good husband and father? Well, when you boil it all down, for most men it means three things:
1. They are a decent provider.
2. They aren't an alcoholic or drug-addict.
3. They aren't physically abusive.
Now, here's what men must wake up and realize...none of those three things mean a man has satisfied, excited, or generated a positive and sexual reaction in his wife towards him. None of these three things mean a wife really respects or admires or is attracted to her husband.
In fact, all too often "I've been a good husband" really just means a man has been a soft, passive, be nice, put up with a lot of nonsense and misbehavior kind of guy...and that's NOT the kind of man a woman will have a positive and sexual reaction to. So, let me say it again...
A woman wants a man who understands and meets her needs. And, she wants a man who thinks, behaves, and operates in a way that is appealing, attractive, and sexy. For the sake of your marriage and any children you may have, I strongly encourage you to become this kind of man.
Copyright 2009, Article by Calle Zorro. Permission is granted to reprint this article ONLY if authorship credit is given to Calle Zorro and a link to DoThisGetSex.com is included with it.
In the "old days" people regularly gave themselves enemas to ensure regularity as well as to introduce helpful and active agents into the body. Enemas provided them with several health benefits such as relief from impacted stools as well as bodily sludge. The enema encouraged the body to release these toxins from the body and the person had an overall feeling of health as a result of it.
Today, however, very few enemas are given by health professionals. A laxative and a glass of water have now replaced a procedure that was once performed by doctors for constipated patients. They no longer want to deal with the forty-five minute enema procedure and the result feces. Nevertheless, should you desire to give yourself an enema, there is a simple process and recipe that you can use at home.
The supplies that you will need are as follows:
oEnema bag or the old red hot water bottle that your grandmother may have had hanging around. Both can be purchased at a medical supply store.
o1 gallon of distilled water
o1 lemon or you can use 1 tablespoon of organic vinegar
o1 small bottle of vitamin E oil or you can use 2 vitamin E capsules, these are for lubrication
o1 old towel or blanket
o1 plastic sheet or waterproof sheet
If you choose to use a hot water bottle, then you will use a screw on long tube, or you can use the disposable enema bottle you purchase at a store. Either way, you will have a thin applicator tip that is gently inserted into the rectum and you will then introduce the water mixture into your colon while lying in the proper Sim's position, this position is designed to reduce the amount of discomfort you may feel. Once the bag is empty, it is best to retain the solution for five to fifteen minutes, especially if you are constipated. After this amount of time, use the toilet and release the fluid. You may want to hang around the toilet for a little while longer as the entire solution does not always come out the first time. You can then take a nice bath or shower and then relax in a prone position for a while, as this is comforting to most people. Many people are amazed at how much better they feel after an enema, especially if they have never experienced one before and if they have a lot of toxic build up in their colon.